There are toys for every fetish, desired sensation and scenario–from sleeves and strokers to cock rings and butt plugs for solo play or g-spot and prostate massagers for partnered fun. There are also bondage-related toys, such as silk ties or handcuffs.
When used in erotic play, experimenting with different toys can enhance intimacy and pleasure.
Male Masturbators
Male masturbation devices are one of the most popular kinds of adult toys for men. They are designed to stimulate both the cock and prostate areas and can be used either alone or with your partner for orgasmic enjoyment. They are available in a variety styles and textures including those that simulate the sensations of mouth or vulva. They can also be heated, or vibrated to add extra stimulation. Some are even hands-free and automatically stroking for ultimate convenience.
The most common male masturbator is the Fleshlight, which has been around for more than a decade. The Fleshlight is simple, yet effective. It features a ribbed inside and just the right amount give. The 8.5 inch OG sleeve should be plenty long for most users, and the suction-base makes it easy to keep in place. The brand offers a hands-free, automatic masturbator as well as a butt version.
Other types of male masturbators are more advanced and include features like pulsing, stroking, or vibrations. Some are controlled remotely by an app. This allows for a more intimate and immersive experience. Some of these toys have two ends, similar to Fleshlights but with different textures. One side may have a vagina and the other a butt. This provides a fun and new way to masturbate.
Many of the most popular male sex toy are relatively safe. However, they contain phthalates which are known to cause harm to the body when consumed in large doses. These chemicals can leach out of plastics, and are particularly dangerous for young children who put these toys into their mouths. The FDA is now working to create safer regulations on adult sex products.
Dildos
Often thought of as a toy for masturbation alone, dildos can also be used to engage with a partner. Dildos come in a variety of sizes and styles. The basic dildo is a long shaft with a standard phallic form. Some have ribbed texture that adds sensation, while others have two ends.
The dildo can be made of glass, plastic, metal, or silicone. Glass dildos are sturdy and can take on temperatures — run one under hot water for a few seconds before use to warm it up, or swish it in cold water afterward to cool it down. Borosilicate is a popular choice because it can withstand extreme temperatures and is resistant to scratches. Silicone dildos offer a soft, flexible material that is easy to clean but not as durable as stainless steel or glass.
Some dildos are flat-base, making them easier to hold with the hands. Others can be attached to a strap that allows the wearer wear it around the neck or waist. Strap-ons are also available. They can be double-ended to stimulate the anal region and penetrate it, or they can have an externally-attached vibration (anal vibrator) that provides pleasure in the area.
Dildos are available in a wide range of shapes and materials. They can also have a variety head designs. These can range from the standard spheres to unicorn-shaped head pieces and tentacles, allowing the user to play with texture, position and movement. Lateef, a queer, inclusive sex educator who advocates for pleasure, suggests that you walk or dance with dildos to get a sense of their heft, and how they react to rocks and thrusts.
There are many brick-and mortar and online stores that offer a wide range of dildos to suit every taste and need. It’s a good idea to check in with a knowledgeable sales associate who can help explain how these toys work and what kind of lubricant might work best, as well as provide information about safe use and cleaning. Some sex toys retailers cater to specific groups of customers, such as women and the LGBTQ community. They can provide a more supportive environment for those looking for pleasure toys.
Air-Suction Toys
Air-pulse stimulators are among the most common sex products in the world. They are a great choice for those who want a different sensation than a dildo. The soft, circular nozzle of this type of stim toys fits snugly around your clitoris to stimulate sensations that feel similar to sucking or nibbling. Some models even have a g-spot stimulator for added pleasure. If you want a more intense experience, choose a toy with a higher setting that can reach a rumble. Lower settings are still available for those who prefer a gradual build. If you’re looking for dual stimulation, look for a toy with a rabbit design (like the Womanizer Duo), which allows you to combine clitoral vibration and G-spot suction.
If you’re a beginner with air-suction toy, it may be best to start off with a small and portable option. This will allow you to easily grip the device. You can then take it out in public to explore without making a mess. You’ll want to have a high-quality lubricant handy, as these toys are often quite sticky and can even be painful.
For those who already love the feeling of an air-suction toy, consider upgrading to a bigger and better version. The Aer, a powerful and luxurious toy, has been a major hit on TikTok. It has lived up to the hype. Its slim, eye catching design is perfect for playful partner play or intimate solo play. The toy’s 10 vibration modes and 11 suction levels can be controlled individually or together with its handy remote. It is also super-flexible so you can use it on either end of your mouth for different pleasures.
Anal Toys
Anal toys, one of the most versatile categories in sex toys and sex games, can add a whole new dimension to solo and partner play. They can also stimulate prostate (or P Spot), which is a similar erogenous region to the G Spot in the vagina. Some anal toys, like a series of beads for your butt called anal beads, are simple, slim and easy to use for beginners. Others vibrate, and can be inserted at different speeds. The beads can stimulate the sphincter on their way into and out of the body, intensifying orgasms.
If you’re more experienced, you might want to consider a vibrating buttplug or dildo. Start by applying a generous amount of lubricant and slowly inserting the toy through the sphincter. Then, rock the toy back and forth to spread lube around as you play with it. To keep your toy smooth and comfortable, apply lube frequently.
If you choose an anal plug, ensure that it has a flared bottom to prevent it from becoming stuck in the anus. If it gets stuck, it could be painful to remove and may cause a urinary tract infection. Make sure the toy can be removed quickly and safely at any time.
Anal beads make a great starter for beginners because they are slim and simple. But there are also many other sexy toys that are more advanced, fun and easier to clean and disinfect. b-Vibe has several textured anal plugs, including this curved beauty from Lovehoney that feels amazing up and down the front butt–or, as a Midwestern mom once said, your “front booty”.